The other day I received an e-mail from a gentle reader who had just tumbled into the toxic waste dump that is the manosphere. Specifically, she had found an article on Return of Kings by one "Raywolf" that purported to expose the cruel, bestial nature of womankind. Although the article itself is horrible, it's pretty much run of the mill fodder for a website run by Roosh, and hardened veteran readers of the New Misogynists, like myself, will hardly raise an eyebrow. This gentle reader, however, had then made the fatal error of reading the Comment Section. (There is good reason that PZ Myers often implores his readers, "Don't read the comments! Don't read the comments!")
But Gentle Reader had no way of knowing that she was proceeding into ever more dangerous terrain where no novice should venture without a seasoned guide (or at least a torch, a strong hand to hold, and a barf bag).
She discovered comments by someone calling himself "Ruler" that disturbed even the other commentators since "Ruler" was clearly extolling the virtues of rape and was actually using that word, "rape." (Because while the act of rape is fun, natural, and necessary, the word "rape" is generally verboten -- unless, of course, it is used to explain how rape is not "rape.")
I took a quick peek at the comments, and didn't know what the hell to think, so I turned the matter over to the webmistress of Bodycrimes, who is, like, five times smarter than I am, for her take on what "Ruler" was all about. She graciously dashed off a brilliant assessment of the post, "Raywolf," and "Ruler" that I am re-posting here. Please read it and please, please do not go over to the article on Return of Kings; rest assured the relevant passages have been summarized and extrapolated here:
I’ve been so busy lately I’ve mostly stopped reading Manosphere
websites, much to the relief of Mr BC. But this morning I received an
email about an article, so I went and took a look. The article in
question confirmed my opinion, once again, that hard-core misogynists
have something of a reading problem.
They want so badly to believe whatever it is that they’re reading is
true, that they literally fail to comprehend what’s right in front of
them.
The article in question is ‘Women Can’t Control Their Animal
Instincts’ over at Return of Kings.com, written by one ‘raywolf’.
Basically, the article is your common-or-garden women-hating tripe.
Raywolf starts with an anecdote about how a pet lioness took a swipe at
someone, to establish the fact that women can’t be trusted, and then he
starts riffing on how women have had a negative impact on his own life.
None of his anecdotes make him look good. He details a broken
marriage that was partly based on him marrying someone so he could get a
diplomatic passport. (Thus proving he was much too young and dumb to
marry, as he evidently didn’t realise – and perhaps still doesn’t – that
the only non-spousal family members who can get an ‘A1′ passport are
legal dependents a.k.a. children.) Then he talks about being taken
advantage of by a flaky flatmate, and then about his relationship with a
psycho woman who compelled him to make poor business decisions, which
is why he missed out on being part of the global enterprise his former
business partner then went on to build.
In other words, RayWolf is the last person any young man with
prospects should be taking life advice from. Still, readers were quick
to congratulate him on writing such an insightful and helpful article,
as RoK readers are wont to do.
And then the weird thing happened.
A commenter called ‘Ruler’ came along and wrote this:
Men are gods and women are less than soulless beasts. But men are
partly controlled by biology as well, in the matter of sex, as raywolf
says. While rape where a male is the victim is a monstrous, unnatural
act, men have a deep-seated, completely natural, biological need to rape
girls and women, and should never be shamed or punished for this basic
male right and need…
Now that’s some hard core misogyny right there! So hard core, that it
even upset some RoK readers, who took ‘Ruler’ to task for advocating
rape. This is RayWolf’s reply:
You have to be careful how you word statements like this….. the
original point of a marriage contract was to show the women had offered
herself up to the man, as and when he felt like it….. thus a man could
basically force himself on his woman….. and women do actually like that
kind of thing in the right context….. princesses were married off because it suited the politics of the
day, and essentially their new husband ‘raped’ them on their wedding
night…. (so much for the Disney princess fantasy…. ) but after a while
the woman got experienced and grew to like it…. but none of this means you can go trolling the streets at night for pretty young things…… NO WAY!
In other words – way back when, aristocrats regularly raped one
another, to their mutual satisfaction. But that doesn’t mean us plebs
today could or should do it!
Nothing daunted, Ruler cheerfully responds by saying:
OK, good point. Don’t rape. But it is every man’s biological need
to force sex on girls of his choosing, teaching her that she is less
than nothing and is only here to serve men. And I am clearly not a troll, as I am only repeating what many on here have said, just mistakenly used the word “rape”.
See what Ruler did just then? Outed himself/herself as a troll. S/he
gives it away right smack in the middle of a clearly sarcastic comment.
At least one reader did understand it was a troll at work. And RayWolf
was promptly called out at least once for suggesting that women grow to
like forced sex, which is somewhat heartening to see.
RayWolf should have stopped at that point. The conversation was
getting close to advocating violence and some readers were clearly
uneasy. But RayWolf didn’t pick up on the tone. Which led him to write
this:
Actually [forced sex] works brilliantly and i’ve tried it with
girlfriends…. you obviously have to know them well, but forcing yourself
on them, and forcing yourself inside her when she’s still tight, dry
and trying to resist makes for great sex, and is very alpha…. the marriage contract was originally all about this act… AND… in
my opinion the reason that most LTRs fail is because men don’t have the
balls to do this more often… although admittedly it can be hard if she’s
in a boner killing mood…..
Oh dear. Tricked into revealing his unsavoury sexual practices by someone who was obviously a troll.
Just why are young men taking advice from this man again?
This is something to bear in mind when reading the manosphere: it is riddled with trolls. In other words, these guys are often hoaxing each other. Who is "Ruler" and what is he/she playing at? We can probably assume he/she is a "manosphere antagonizer" if not a "feminist sympathizer." On the other hand, he may just be a bored lonely dude with a couple of hours to kill who, due to his own low esteem, finds it validating to "prove" he is smarter than a bunch of morons.
And furthermore, as Ms. Bodycrimes points out, why are RoK's readers so eager to take advice from some random dude ("raywolf") who admits his own life, in every respect, is completely fucked up? Why do they cluster at the odoriferous feet of Roosh, whose life by any rational measure and by his own admission is pretty damn miserable and unsatisfying, and whose central ambition at this point is to persuade Russia to take him in?
Once I had read Ms. Bodycrimes' post, I couldn't believe how I hadn't spotted the trollery myself! Maybe because, no matter how hard I try, I cannot understand what motivates the New Misogynists, who have nothing to gain and everything to lose by adopting such bleak, amoral philosophies.
But paranoia is infectious. As soon as I realized that "Ruler" was a troll, it made me wonder if my Gentle Reader was, too. Was Gentle Reader one of Ruler's alters? Because what could be more delightfully malicious than to get me to respond to a troll's comments by bewailing the new depths RoK had sunk to? Trolling x 2!
And guess what? Gentle Reader really was a gentle reader, after all. The wolf in sheep's clothing was, after all, a lamb. Thank you, Gentle Reader, and I'm sorry I doubted you.
By the way, if you are interested in following the New Misogynists, I advise you to start by reading "secondary sources" like David Futrelle's manboobz or any of the blogs listed to the right. This helps "filter" the content and places it firmly in the mocking or critical light it deserves. Direct exposure to the manosphere can be psychologically traumatizing for the uninitiated. I'm serious!
Meanwhile, the sun is shining and my papers are calling, and bless us everyone.
My first taste of the new misogyny was via a link to RoK, I found it mildly traumatizing myself. That's why I like sites which mock such codswallop, it gives me perspective.
ReplyDeleteI read Raywolf's article, I too was struck by how many poor life decisions he's made, often rushing into involvements with unsuitable women, usually motivated by pure selfishness; marrying one for a passport, inviting a woman he barely knew to live with him in the hope of NSA sex, throwing away a girl he thought was 'a keeper', etc, etc,
Btw, wasn't Raywolf the guy who wrote a piece lauding prison rape as a great way to enforce hierarchy?