The prevalence of false rape accusations is one of the central obsessions of the MRM. In response, fervent Roosh fan Matt Forney recently posted "tongue in cheek" advice to would-be rapists. Yeah, it's obviously meant to be read as Swiftian "satire," a la American Psycho (which I didn't think was funny either). He admits he has gotten his ideas from watching movies, and there is nothing very interesting here beyond a rehash of morbid cinematic fantasies.
For the record, I don't find jokes or ruminations about humiliating or castrating men amusing either. Neutering my dogs is more traumatic for me than for them!
Rape is the ultimate act of domination, whether male over female or male over other male. (I acknowledge women also occasionally rape men, particularly in cases
of statutory rape, and these acts are just as reprehensible.) Nobody is going to argue that rape is worse than murder or mutilation, but it violates an individual's sovereignty in a way that few crimes do. And it strikes me as an act of terrorism, because the fear it engenders affects all women all the time.
Although the legal definition of rape has broadened, the rate of rape appears to have declined in the U.S. This is good news, albeit a trend no one has been able to explain. People do seem to be more sensitive and knowledgeable about what rape is / is not, possibly thanks to the fact that it has been a feminist concern for a generation.
We don't know why humans are sexually aroused by the imagery, suggestion or reality of violence. There are almost certainly biochemical mechanisms at work here: somehow, the wires for aggressive and sexual impulses get crossed in the limbic system. Furthermore, we are awash in imagery that promotes violent sexual fantasy and horror. The disappearance, violation and murder of attractive white women is such a pervasive theme in entertainment and popular media that it is hardly shocking anymore.
What stuns me is that young men like Matt Forney are putting their fantasies out there on the Internet with their legal names attached. What compels people to burn their social and professional bridges in this reckless way? I don't buy that it's "ballsy" to commit social suicide. It's tragic.
Perhaps he is so young that he cannot envisage a day when he wishes more than anything that he hadn't done so. Perhaps the ego stroke of Internet "celebrity" is as addictive and self-destructive as crack? Or do these men feel so hopeless and despairing about their futures that they really have nothing to lose?
Update: Forney has removed the piece from his blog and (sort of) apologized for it. I've also ascertained Mr. Forney is forty years old, not as young as I had assumed. (In other words, old enough to know better.)
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Uhm... I dunno... "not white?"
Roosh's racial designation is important to Roosh, so please pay attention!
Iranians consider themselves to be Aryans (as do most Afghans). I have actually met Iranians who concluded on that basis that Hitler must have been a righteous dude. Iranians are, by and large, incredibly racist. This helps explain why Roosh insists he is "white" (and he is, sorta, whatever "race" means), and why he has actually constructed a "totem pole" of racial desirability. Many Iranians look down on Arabs, whom they consider to be of an inferior race.
The language of Iran (Roosh's first language) is Farsi, or Persian. It belongs, like English, French, German, Hindi, and Sanskrit, to the Indo-European family of languages -- although the writing system uses the Arabic alphabet.
I hope this helps explain Roosh's notably weird hang up about "race," which seems to cause some of his (nonwhite) readers much pain and confusion. It also explains why he can only "bang" white chicks. He has to prove over and over and over... just how very "white" he is.
Class over!
Roosh, who believes women exist primarily to provide men with boners, spends a lot of time thinking about which women meet his "boner" specifications and which do not. Apparently, a woman's capacity to give him an erection on sight is his operational definition of "beauty." (Asian women don't cause his penis to stir; therefore, they are not beautiful to him, contrary to the experience of millions of men around the world.) Whenever he has nothing else to tweet, he'll post some random woman's picture with the caption "Would you bang or not?"
It's caused me to think a bit about my own definitions of beauty and sexual appeal in both sexes. A woman doesn't have to be bisexual, as I am, to enjoy looking at images of both men and women, of course, or to respond sexually to either gender.
Most of the women Roosh seems to find appealing are what the current "Hollywood" ideal deems "beautiful," and although I agree they meet the popular current criteria of "beauty," they are a bit plastic: augmented breasts, big hair, lots of artful make up, etc. I know that is what we are "taught" to like, but it's a shame how popular media divorces us from the beauty and richness of diversity.
I find that, at least for myself, sexual allure is quite a different thing than beauty. Beauty is often a rather cold and sterile thing: "look but don't touch." Perfect symmetry of features is cited as the universal standard of beauty, but it isn't interesting. On the other hand, people who project the most sexual "heat" are often what the French call "jolie-laide" (pretty-ugly).
Grace Kelly?
or
Anna Magnani?
Alain Delon?
or
Serge Gainsbourg?
I once had a boyfriend that was the essence of jolie-laide in masculine form. He looked a little like Iggy Pop. His mouth was too generous, his rugged facial features somewhat crowded on to a narrow face. He was not handsome, and he was not photogenic..His frame was light and wiry, a combination of strength and delicacy. Although he was dominant sexually, he had slightly effeminate gestures. He freely copped to the fact that his sexual promiscuity was his compensation for being ignored and bullied as a boy. Yet, ever the bundle of contradictions, he was supremely self-confident. I never got tired of looking at him (or fucking him).
I find some fat women incredibly appealing. I have a serious girl crush on Queen Latifah: her intense, knowing eyes, her warm, authoritative voice. Also Rebel Wilson (whom I fancy looks a bit like me, back in the day): that combination of soft, blonde prettiness and self-effacing wit is pretty irresistible. And again, self-confidence. I found the late Anna Nicole Smith, may she rest in peace, gorgeous -- both fat and thin, made up or natural.
I am hard pressed to find any person "ugly" in terms of physical appearance. Some folks are more stereotypically attractive due to symmetry or conformity to fashionable ideals. Almost anyone who is willing to "work on" themselves can achieve a pleasing or socially acceptable appearance. Even people who have been born with congenital "deformities" or have been disfigured in accidents can be gorgeous. The "difference" seems to draw more attention to their physical assets, somehow, and makes them "POP."
Take J.R. Martinez, for example. Hot and a hero.
or
Bree Walker. Exquisite face, lovely figure, what a smile.
or
Peter Dinklage. The eyes, the facial structure, the voice...
I feel sorry for people like Roosh, who have such narrow, rigid, and unimaginative ideas of what beauty is. They miss a lot of opportunities to be pleased and gratified by the endless array of interesting people to look at. Can they even find the beauty in themselves?
This link was posted on some MRM blog, I cannot remember which, probably by a Man Going His Own Way. I watched it, and wondered if there was a female version, for the concept works equally well for both genders.
The Shortest Fairytale in the World
Not that I'm not against marriage by any means -- it obviously makes a lot of people happy -- and I'm content with my own pair-bonding of the past several years.
But I'm not against People Going Their Own Ways either. I just wish the MGTOW would get on with it, and GO already.
Here he goes again! Roosh performs a "brutal take down on a budding feminist" who has dared to write in her school paper about the MRM in disparaging ways. (How does Roosh find time to scour the editorial pages of small provincial college papers, anyway?)
So the "brutal take down" starts out with a bucket load of sarcastic vitriol, the gist of which seems to be a dismissal of her views on the basis that he (Roosh) is no more an MRA than he is "a merman."
You see, Roosh is not an MRA -- oh no! Anyone who has read his blog(s) knows that Roosh is vastly superior to the typical "passive" MRA, mostly because, about five times a year, he manages to get himself laid. How silly to conflate misogynistic MRAs with misogynistic PUAs. Shows how much those dumb "feminists" know!
"Thank you, Paige, for your opinion piece about Men’s Rights Activism. In particular, thank you for using fallacious arguments to suggest that because you don’t care for the mission and the tactics of some MRA’s, MRA’s are a farce. Thank you for demonstrating that hasty generalization, straw man, false equivalence and other lapses of logic are not limited to men alone. Thank you for demeaning what many men perceive to be an inherent violation of bodily autonomy and integrity by dismissively saying that it’s not as bad as the “very real issue” of female circumcision. Thank you for grudgingly acknowledging that some MRA’s aren’t a complete waste of time and, as self-appointed Spokeswoman for Feminism, deigning to give me permission to advocate for those things that you believe should be important to me as a man. Thank you for making it clear that it is ok for a member of one gender to tell another gender what to think. Thank you for misrepresenting feminism as a unequivocally, schism-free homogenous quest for good, unlike fractious and controversial men’s rights, and that it is acceptable to define a civil rights movement by an outsider’s perception of its basest members. Most importantly, thank you for demonstrating the self-righteous ignorance and arrogance that drives much of the anti-feminist sentiment that you observed in many of the groups you wrote about. I also would like to pre-emptively thank you for misunderstanding this comment as an attack on women and feminism in general, rather than a criticism of the vapid and condescending nonsense you somehow had the temerity to publish."
But then? It's like the man cannot help himself. In the end he just has to "go there," delivering his customary coup de grace by attacking the girl's physical appearance. This time he cannot bring himself to call her "ugly," he isn't quite that delusional -- so he settles on calling her "fat." Then tacks on a condescending remark, that she can thank him later for his advice to hit the gym.
First of all, Roosh, you realize that when you tell women they are unattractive to you, they mostly react with sighs of relief? The last thing any girl, fat or thin or in-between, needs is to have to fend off the advances of a sociopathic loser.
Second of all, Roosh, do you even recognize what the word "fat" means, anymore? Has every woman with half a brain and a voice that demands to be heard become "fat" by default?
As a genuinely fat person, I am dismayed by the use of this word to describe people who are thin. As a fat person (fat baby, fat girl, fat woman, and fat crone), I reckon I have rightful claim to that word.
You wanna know what a fat arm looks like? I'll send you a picture. It will give you a real frisson of disgust, and if you tell me that my upper arms resemble "bleached hams," well, I'll laughingly concur.
Readers know Roosh prefers women who have been professionally posed, made up, have long (and "big") hair, and/or photo-shopped to the nth degree, but still... that bicep he has circled doesn't look plump, or even flabby, by any normal medical or aesthetic standard.
In short, this girl is in no way "fat." Au contraire, this is a girl who is very young, quite slender, and perfectly lovely to look at in every respect, by any conventional standard.
Sorry if I seem to be beating the point to death, but if she is fat, then what am I? Nothing?
Never mind. I didn't want to go there, Roosh, but you made me, you made me say this: this young woman, purely on the basis of physical attractiveness, is so "out of your league," that it makes your whole post laughable. Your arrows have rubber tips. The only way a girl that looks like this would go home with you is because she was (1) poor, and (2) thought you had some money (in other words, if she weren't North American), or (3) was forcibly abducted (and please don't take that as a viable option).
I'm sorry to say this, Roosh -- but YOU MADE ME. YOU MADE ME SAY THIS!
Roosh, like most of the New Misogynists, seems to believe that there was some golden era when men were "kings" and women accepted their subservient roles. This is pure "false nostalgia" -- that is, a nostalgia for a time and place that never really was. Let's take one of their premises: that ordinary men used to have a greater selection of beautiful, submissive potential wives (before fat, grumpy feminists came along and ruined it for the average joes).
In fact, U.S. history demonstrates that a competitive marriage market has always existed, especially in the West. The lonely, eccentric Norwegian bachelor is not a myth. Furthermore, the idea that a wife should be "beautiful" (that is, sexually desirable to other men) is a relatively modern concept. Throughout our history, men and women have tended to value more practical qualities in mates, i.e., the capacity and willingness to work hard, shared religious values, property or the potential to acquire property. Marriage was too important a commitment to be based primarily on sexual attraction, and literature abounded with stories about the perils of letting romantic or erotic love take sway over pragmatic considerations.
Let's face it: George Washington, the most admired American man of his day, did not marry Martha Custis because she was centerfold-worthy!
My own grandfather, as surviving photographs attest, was an exceptionally handsome young man. My grandmother, on the other hand, was quite plain. He married her because she was clever with her hands, extremely industrious, both frugal and enterprising, and had skills (including carpentry) that were useful.
So when Roosh and others hearken back to a time when an array of chaste, lovely girls were available for any man's taking, like the houris of an Islamic paradise, they betray their ignorance of the realities of American social history. Roosh blames coveted status symbols such as I-phones for rendering women "incapable of love," yet his own values have been equally "corrupted" by consumerism and popular media.
In fact, all of us are to some extent similarly corrupted, awash in advertisements and commercials (some 3000 per day!) that teach us that we not only deserve whatever the sponsors are selling, but will be miserable failures without it. And this has nothing to do with feminism.
Roosh (via Heartiste) has declared that a story about a graduate student who was temporarily suspended represents a "truly scary" violation of freedom of speech. And just because the student made a fat joke!
OK, that's not exactly how it went down.
The graduate student, Joseph Aziz, had gotten into a kerfuffle with some other students whilst defending a Republican speaker on campus. His online comment that one of the other students had legs like "bleached hams" appears to have been an ad hominem attack in the wake of what started as a heated ideological conflict. In other words, his decision to publicly deride a classmate's physical appearance was not a conscious act of "fat shaming," but a lazy, juvenile attempt to undercut her political position.
Meh, it happens.
Aziz was first disciplined by the university, who "acted in accordance with
its Student Code of Conduct which complies with the New Jersey
Anti-Bullying Bill of Rights Act, and other applicable federal and state
regulations.’
The reprimand included an order that Aziz have no further contact with the other parties involved, either in person or online. It was Aziz' violation of the no-contact rule that got him suspended. He just couldn't seem to restrain himself from hopping back into the fray with another online reference to his victim's meaty calves.
"Aziz, a molecular
biology student, said that he was shocked that a careless comment about a
stranger’s appearance made online may have put his educational career
in jeopardy."
I don't know about Montclair State, but every college I have attended or taught at issues Student Handbooks, in which expectations of student conduct are clearly delineated. Part of those expectations are that students will help maintain a mutually respectful, collegial environment. Granted, few students read these handbooks, but ignorance of the law is no defense, etc.
College admin and faculty are well aware that many of their students have not achieved full cognitive development; physiologically, the frontal lobe of the adolescent cerebral cortex is still maturing. This is why Montclair State's initial discipline was mild. Students are routinely given second chances for non-criminal misbehavior. On the other hand, once warned, students are expected to comply or face possible expulsion. The fact that Aziz has only been suspended for one term suggests the college emphatically does NOT want to "put his educational career in jeopardy." Aziz is disingenuous when he claims that it was a "careless comment" (that he later "regretted") that got him in hot water; on the contrary, it was his very deliberate choice to disobey a "cease and desist" order that forced the college admin's hand.
Five years up the road, if Aziz behaves in this manner with a co-worker, he will not get a pass from his employers. Guys like Aziz' spell l-i-a-b-i-l-i-t-y to HR these days. He will be out of a job, and he won't even qualify for unemployment. (Hopefully, like Roosh, he can sleep in his dad's basement.)
Like businesses with employees, colleges are institutions that have the right to demand students and faculty comply with their policies on campus. Are social media sites like Facebook or Youtube "off" campus? It looks like the courts may determine this; they may rule in Mr. Aziz' favor on this one.
Regardless, Mr. Aziz's reputation has been permanently tarnished, and it is likely to haunt him both professionally and socially for the rest of his life. And it won't be because he doesn't like fat girls. It will because of his demonstrated lack of judgment and self-restraint.
I've been warning my students for years that what they do online has consequences to their futures, and this is just another story to add to the canon...
UPDATE: Several days ago, Joseph Aziz' suspension was lifted.
He's back in school. It doesn't make anything I've written above less relevant, however, or his behavior less reprehensible.
