Mary McCarthy was famously sued for libel for claiming that "Everything Lillian Hellman writes is a lie, including and and the." Hellman died before the suit went to court, her reputation rather the worse for wear; McCarthy never had to pay damages nor do I believe she ever regretted making the initial accusation.
Let me summon the shade of McCarthy this morning by stating categorically that everything Matt Forney writes about sex is, well, pretty much a lie too. It has to be. Because this is a guy who has had very little sexual experience with women, especially not with the women who meet his exacting standards. Over the years, perhaps, a handful of fat girls have tossed him a bone, which is partly why he rants so much about fat girls (even though & especially because he himself is rather fat). He can hardly live with the fact that the only young women who would deign to fuck him are fat themselves.
Self-disclosure: To be honest, I wasn't much different than Matt when I was in my early twenties. I was rather chubby, the typical "fat girl with a pretty face," and as such, found myself on the margins of the dating market. I compensated ferociously in various ways, and always managed to keep my dance card full, but I refused to consider the attentions of any man who was fatter or less attractive than myself. To go out with a fat guy was to admit defeat, to admit I couldn't compete, either. Until I was well into twenties, I only went after men whom I considered to have a higher "SMV" than I did because until then, the primary purpose of sex for me was to validate my own sense of worth. (Fast forward to age forty, when I fell madly in love with a guy who weighed 400#, but that's another story...)
Almost everything Matt Forney knows about sex is based on watching movies.
He actually rates movies based on which ones have "the best rape scene." No, you don't have to scratch the surface hard to find the perverse adolescent who is the "Real Matt Forney."
The influence of porn seeps into every nook and cranny of the manosphere -- and, to be fair, of popular American culture in general. None of us is immune to its influence. But nowhere is that influence so blatant and striking as in the writing of the New Misogynists.
Think Raquel Welch as Myra Breckenridge. |
Sure she did, sonny. Now pull the other one.
The sex the manosphereans describe involves lots of tried-and-true porn moves: choking women (with either hands or mighty dick), spitting, squirting, ejaculating on faces or clothing, overcoming resistance through physical force. The women are often reported to scream with ecstasy as the author bangs away like a jackhammer -- and that one last detail, boys, is a sure tip off that someone is
Look, I'm not bragging, but I had quite a bit of sex in my day, and although I am now retired, I proudly maintain my Elder Slut status, yet none of my adventures resembled a porn movie (unless my partners and I were consciously "acting out" a scene, which happened almost never).
I would bet any amount of money that our "most hated man on the internet" has had extremely limited intimacy with a woman. Like most of his readers, he is relying on a combination of years of absorbing violent, sexualized imagery and experienced frustration to fuel his fire. And like most of these "leaders of men", he relies on the fact that his readers are even more naive and limited in their experiences, even more dependent on their wishful imaginations, than he is.